Aristotle once described a true friend as a “single soul dwelling in two bodies” — but what differentiates a true, lasting friendship from the other relationships we have in our daily lives? I have several friends that I see often, some every day. We talk and do things together. I know out of those friends who I can call if i have a problem and need help. These friends are not the friends I would call at 2 a.m. if I had an emergency. What is the difference between 2 a.m. friends and non 2 a.m. friends?
I think it is the closeness, deep connection that I feel in my soul that differentiates the friends I will call in the middle of the night and those I won’t call until a decent hour. A 2 a.m. friend is one who I have an unspoken connection with that words can not define. I can’t define it but I can tell you what it looks like in real life.
The most important thing about a 2 a.m. friend is they never give up on me. Even when I have had all I want of life and I want to crawl in a hole a 2 a.m. friend will not let me give up. They might crawl in the hole with me for a little bit, but they will reach in and pull me out kicking and screaming. I can say “I hate you” and they know I don’t mean it. They still love me anyway. They tell me what I need to hear when I need to hear it even if it hurts my feelings. They will not let me do anything stupid, at least not alone. A 2 a.m. friend will never abandon me. They are often more loyal to me than some or most of my family members. They have dropped me off at or picked me up from the airport even when I had a 7 a.m. flight. With 2 a.m. friends I can joke with them in a way I can’t with other friends.Our conversations often begin or end with casual insults and no one gets mad about it. These are the friends that I am comfortable enough at their place to raid the refrigerator and complain about there being nothing to eat. We borrow each other’s stuff that normal people wouldn’t share. I am not saying we share a toothbrush, but if it so happened that I forgot mine, it would be no big deal. They love my kids like their own. When it is quiet and we don’t have much to say, I never feel obligated to fill that void with empty talk. We can just be in the same breathing space and be relaxed. When we do talk it is about everything and nothing. I can tell them exactly how I feel and they don’t patronize me or belittle my feelings. A 2 a.m friend keeps my secrets always, cries with me, and is there when I need them no questions asked.
All of these things and many more, that my 2 a.m. friend does for me I will also do for them because 2 a.m. friends are a few and far between. When you find one, you are truly blessed.
Be a 2 a.m. friend every chance you get.
Proverbs 18:24 (CEV) “Some friends don’t help,but a true friend is closer than your own family.”